Hey all! I hope you had a great Christmas and Happy New Year. Mine was quiet and I liked it that way. I'm still a bit down.
I haven't knit anything in at least 2 weeks. I tried to work on the socks I'm making for Chris and I think I got across 2 DPN's and put them down again.
There's kind of a back story to this. I have a friend who has a really bad problem with alcohol. He's a really good friend too and we all stand by his side all the time through thick and thin; until a few weeks ago when he was really really really drunk and went off on me in a restaurant.
He had been drinking all day long, then hooked up with two other friends of ours. They spent the day out at a few bars and had a few drinks (he drank probably twice as much as them and had already had plenty in him). By the time we met up with them at the 3rd bar, he was a mess. He was jumping around acting like a jackass (pardon my french) and one by one everyone at the table told him to settle down and stop acting like a fool. So at one point he started to act up again, I literally turned around to him and said "Carlos, stop." Not forcefully, not mean, just more like "c'mon man cut it out."
Then he snapped.
Chris was about to punch him out (and they're best friends) Gabe and Mari just said "ok time to go." And they ended up taking him back to their home to keep an eye on him and make sure he wasn't going to go out and start anything on his own.
It's sad when you have to be babysat and you're almost 40.
So what does this have to do with knitting?
I was actually half ways done with a scarf I had started for him as a belated Christmas gift. I was really excited to make it for him because usually when he's sober he's a sweetheart and we're "pin nerds" at Disneyland together. He buys the special release pins for me as gifts (totally unexpected and I don't ask for them either).
I think part of the reason he went off on me is that I look similar to his ex-girlfriend whom he recently broke up with (after dating for 6 years). I'm not saying we're twins but we both have much the same mannerisms, hair color, glasses, height, size, etc. Part of the reason they broke up was because he'd get drunk and call her at 4am and tear her a new one, completely unprovoked.
So the day after all this happened our friends told him what happened and he didn't remember any of it (of course). He's been trying to apologize to me, but I'm not sure I want to accept it right at the moment.
Until he gets help, I don't think I can forgive him. He's already had to deal with a DUI and did AA to keep himself out of jail and facing more fines, but he didn't take it seriously and just fell back into old habits.
I pray for him and I know one day he'll really learn. I just can't seem to pick up any of my projects at the moment because of all this.
Sorry to be so down and so personal. It's just the current happenings in the Days of My Life (LOL!)
Episode 88: Parade Will Circle the Town Twice
3 weeks ago
1 comments:
That sucks about your friend! You are doing the right thing by not accepting the apology for now. I have been through this type of thing a few times myself and it is not fun.
Bottom line is that the person needs to get their crap together and realize that it is not the responsiblity of others to take his crap and then say it is ok.
He needs to feel the hurt that you feel and then may be he will realize what an ass he has been! It just sucks when it is such a close friend of yours.
As for the knitting hiatus, I am in one too! The needlepoint has taken center stage, which isn't really a bad thing. I have been really enjoying it!
And finally...get the wii! I was in the same boat as you with thinking that John would be sucked into it. Turns out that he hasn't. The first couple of days he was, but that is to expected. Plus, you will enjoy it too!
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